Born in Northallerton, two younger sisters, parents still happily married. School in Leeds, mixed comprehensive, plenty of friends, excellent grades. University in Oxford, maths degree, never enjoyed the work, failed and retook final year, depression. Moved to Cambridge to live with rjk and work. Bought a house, changed job from publishing to computing. More depression, six months off, work not going well. Split up with rjk but continued living and working in Cambridge. Succession of relationships, some poly some cheating, mostly failed, usually my fault. Current boyfriend Mike is nice, but am still hung up on Ernie. Future: who knows?